It is a big relief to come across an article that proves the worth of a Gambian woman. The article, published shortly after President Yahya Jammeh hauled insults and mockery at Gambian women, explains why most men love to marry our women. The article runs contrary to President Jammeh’s disgusting remarks against our beautiful, dignified and hardworking women. Remarkably, the article is not authored by a Gambian, which rules out any symptom of bias or favouritism. Gambian women should therefore hold their heads high with pride and dignity instead of brooding over the unguarded remarks of a desperate, bully president. Read through and be the judge. It’s simply worth reading.
Why Do Most Men Love To Marry Gambian Women
It should come as no surprise that most men in the world, love a woman who can cook. There is just something so attractive and wonderful about women who can create all the things that your stomach craves.
Before getting married, one of the roles of young Gambian women in African tradition is to learn how to cook. Their parents made a choice by tasking out the cooking to the females. There was no gender bias there. It was just that Gambian women have better sense of smell and taste than males, and they have an eye for fine details, in earlier days when women were supposed to go to the field and get the vegetables for cooking, they had a fine and a soft texture in their hands which made it easier for them to say, which vegetable or fruit is just ripe to be cooked.. They were able to choose the right ones. And the consistency of the cooked food appreciated better by females.
Starting at a very young age, Gambian mothers teach and prepare their daughters to be suitable partners in marriage because in African tradition, a woman who can’t cook might be considered a worthless fellow. Remember cooking and serving food for others is the noblest deed for a person.
Why do Gambian men love women who can cook? Why do they prefer them over women who can’t cook? Is it because men like to eat? Yes. Is it because the cliche saying that, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,” is true? Definitely. Is it because a woman who can cook reminds them of their mom? Sure. But at the core of all those truths lies something simpler men love women who can cook because it means that their family will be taken care of.
Gambian Men are designed to protect and provide. When it comes to our families (or future families), we want to make sure that our children have the basic necessities food, water, shelter, and love.
Gambia women cook without cook book, because from generations women are thought how to cook without one. An African woman knows her ingredients for every meal which she wants to prepare. In the rural areas, it is very common to see women slicing onions in their bare palm, without a cut, a skill many dare to try. (I don’t think they would be interested if given a cutting board).
Don’t think cooking as an inferior task. Remember cooking and serving food for others is the most noblest deed for a person. And if you meet any house wife don’t make a mockery out of them telling that all you know is to cook even doing that job is not easy.
Doesn’t the whole “woman in the kitchen” idea just perpetuate the male dominated patriarchal culture in which we live? It sure does. I’m simply presenting the idea that men, given the choice, will always choose a woman who can cook over one who can’t.
One thing my wife loves about me is I like to help her while cooking. Every guy who is a husband of a working wife, should realize the difficulty with cooking and help out. There is absolutely nothing wrong in helping. And on a lighter note, when you cook together, psychologically the bonding and intimacy between the couple increases and it’s another way to keep renewing your romantic tacts.
But isn’t it hypocritical to demand something of someone else that you can’t do yourself? Absolutely. I’m in no way suggesting that men demand that their spouses can cook (unless, of course, they can cook). I wholeheartedly believe that you should never make your mate (or potential mate) live up to any expectation that you don’t. Having said that, both men and women, if you don’t know how to cook, learn!
Story and picture courtesy of http://www.showbizwall.com/why-do-most-men-love-to-marry-gambian-women
Is this best picture you can fine in the whole world when making reference about beauty of Gambian women ? Realy , no wonder why Yaya Jammeh has to travel all the way to Marroco to find a wife.
What’s about light skin that black people are so obsessed with ?
How many have skin color like one in the picture above you are using as reference? Sham, shame, and big shame.
Malik, your comment is so hateful towards light-skinned Gambian women. They too are Gambians who deserve the right to appear on newspaper cover. I will be disturb if another nationality appears with the story. You better withdraw your statement before we label you with the same category with Yahya Dafataba Jammeh who insulted our Gambian women, forgetting that his own mother is a woman.
Please Malik do not bother us with your hate and discriminatory message. You have to understand that several kinds of people form the Gambian nation. They include light-skinned people. Do you want to suggest that light-skinned Gambians are not Gambian enough. May be, some of them are even more Gambian than you unless you prove me wrong. Don’t forget about the Lebanese, Fulas and Tukulor majority of who are light-skinned are Gambians. As Americans say, cut it out. Don’t even go there next time before you get into my nerve. It’s an insult to me whose mother is light-skinned not by accident but by Allah’s will.
This Malik guy is like Jammeh. I hate hypocrites and those who have nothing to offer but hatred. He has something to hide, and that is hatred against Gambian women. I will not doubt if his wife is not a Gambian or he has spent the last dime to woo a light-skinned Gambian woman only to be disappointed. Please don’t heap that hatred on all our light-skinned women.
You will get my cursing next you don’t guard your filthy mouth. I am a light-skinned colored Gambian woman who feels insulted by you. I was happy when I read this quite interesting piece but all that evaporated upon reading this jackass’ hateful comment. Kairo News please kindly trash such hateful comments next time.
Guys, don’t unload all your bullets on this so-called Malik. The problem is that when uninitiated people speak they pour nothing but hatred and offensive message. He is not either initiated or has not learnt lessons during his initiation. I will personally initiate him if he comes back with his junk again. Let him try me, a proud light-skinned Gambian woman. Do I have to apologise for being a naturally light-skinned Gambian. Dump it dude?
Right, Miss Gambian Beauty Yaisha Semega Janneh,
I am an Ethiopian and I have married TWO Gambian women already, dated maybe six others, and now bringing up a Gambian Princess on my own – who is in secondary school here in UK and ARGUING with me just as much as you (or your sister or cousin) used to argue at Marina High School in 1997. Once my daughter leaves me to go to university to become a Lawyer, Teacher or Doctor (inshallah) I hope to marry my THIRD (and hopefully last – lol!) Gambian wife. So let us lay to rest the issue of the beauty of Gambian women (and I say that as an Ethiopian – happy to let Ethiopian women take 2nd place on this occasion).
Assuming I have not mistaken you for a sister or cousin, there is no forgetting the Semega-Janneh who went to research African History just to rebut her teacher who had said PROVOCATIVELY that “Ethiopia was the only African country that had remained independent from white domination”.
You (or your sister or cousin) came back to class the next day triumphant: “Sir, you are wrong. Liberia was free too!”
Teachers never forget that kind of experience – it gives us good professional satisfaction to find such excellent students.
Have a nice day.
Mr. Halake… “Now take down notes … comma, comma, comma, …”!!!!!
A beautiful young face and a fitting article that all Gambians should be proud of… Let’s not ruin this article with any negative vibes..This page is too sweet and.beautiful..
Malik, I agree with you. Also, cooking may be essential in the Gambia where women generally stay home. Times have change.
In the west cooking skills are very insignificant. In fact, Gambian men in the west are running away from Gambian women. Divorce is highest in our communities for reasons best known to all of us.
So let’s call a spade a spade. These are no insults but facts.
Alimatou Sarr, Anta Diop, now Fanta Baldeh, these are all aliens names that have been used to defend any editorial backlash here, and to polish the image of this medium, so It doesn’t bother me what comes out of these names.
The truth is, black people should be proud of their skin and their hair at all times, black is the most beautiful thing go has created yet.
Anta Diop: I don’t know if Kairo News will heed to your advice to trash my comments, so I cut and past my comments in case I need to use it for a reference.
This Malik is a joke so let no one respond to his bullshit. Did he forget that his name too is not African? Ki defa yabateh!
No. Defa duff. Needs to check into Jammeh’s ‘Ndeysan Clinic’.
Ha ha ha ha. Ah?…….. I don craz?
Dodou Jawneh, I am talking to people who are not deluded. Evidently you are not one of them.
Who defines beauty?
Will we manage to emancipate ourselves from mental slavery (to paraphrase Bob Marley)? It’s so we’ve got no choice but to do the former, because most Africans are dark-skinned, and we have to see the beauty in that for our own psychological well-being.
Our thinking seems to be: the darker we are, the more ‘African’ we are, which wouldn’t be a problem if some of us didn’t think there was something wrong with being African. Why do we think that? Malcolm X once asked, “Who taught you to hate yourself? Who taught you to hate the texture of your hair? Who taught you to hate the colour of your skin?”